Catriona Burns. The French tend to meet for the first time through social circles or friends. They rarely go on blind dates and prefer to get to know each other first.
Dating as a French person can be pretty different than in America. If you've ever fantasized of being in a French romance, it may be different than how you imagined. In terms of the progressive dating culture that exists today in the United States, dating in France is very much a traditional experience.
In the US, we love our romance. We love our rom-coms and happily-ever-afters. The Pursuit of Happiness is written into our Declaration of Independence, and pursuit of a Happy Ending is written into our favorite fairytales.
In France, great importance is placed on family. The basic domestic unit includes all persons living in the same household, who may or may not be related. Single-person households are also quite common. Although there is an increase in geographic mobility, most people continue to live in or visit the region in which they grew up.
Not because of the language barrier you always find ways to communicate! Do or did! What differences did you see between the French culture and yours?
Moving to another country is challenging enough as it is. The dating world is nothing new to me. To be honest, I never even took dating seriously there.
The below is a list of some of the themes and commonalities observed. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid. European men are comfortable with women, which leads to respect for women.
Many years ago I was in a park in Paris with a girl named Sandrine who was pining away for a boy named Pierre. She picked a flower and started pulling off its petals, but rather than the familiar refrain "He loves me, he loves me not," she carefully intoned: "He loves me a little, a lot, passionately, madly, not at all. I instantly thought that Sandrine was one clever French girl until I learned that, no, this is the standard French refrain. This is how the French are groomed to think about love from an early age: not in the absolutes of total love or utter rejection, but in nuances and a range of possibilities.
Oh, French women. By way of a different culture, language, and romantic norms, dating someone from any country is bound to present some serious differences. Understanding the realities of French dating customs requires digging a little deeper than one or two great dates—so we spoke with five women who maintained actual serious romantic relationships, not just a week of abroad flirting.
When social encounters with foreigners involve romance, your cultural makeup can trip you up if you don't know what to expect. The French, for example, have a different attitude toward relationships and finding a partner than Americans. The way the French respond to another's interest in them, their accepted behavior during courtship and how their relationships progress can baffle an American seeking love in France. The man-meets-woman language in France represents a major cultural difference for Americans.