After interviewing a lot of single men and women on their dating experiences, It's Just Lunch managed to get some inside information on what men and women are really looking for when they meet someone for the first time. However, through all the tips and tricks, sometimes it just comes down to chemistry and timing. So what are those two seemingly nebulous, yet important, parts of a date?
Charly Lester investigates. Chemistry is never guaranteed, no matter how great someone seems over messages and emails, or how hot they look in their photos. Sometimes chemistry is made or broken on the basis of how someone laughs; what their voice is like; their scent.
I'm sure by now you've heard that first impressions in dating can make or break everything. The good news is, that's not exactly true. Although the first date can seem uncannily similar to going on a job interview — you still may feel like you need to wear the "right" clothes, discuss your interests, and gauge whether or not this person is a right fit for you — dates can be a touch more forgiving than the grueling corporate world.
What do you do when you hit it off with someone in an email correspondence and in phone conversations, and then when you meet you find them unattractive? What do you suggest? How do I blow off thee?
For those of us who don't believe in love at first sightor at least haven't had it happen to us yet, let's talk about the slow burn of attraction. In my new dating life, a problem I'm dealing with a lot is the disappointment I feel when I don't get that sparky feeling with a guy. Which is basically always.
When my coaching clients first come to me, they often complain about how difficult it is to find someone who they feel like they connect with. The concept of having chemistry is so topsy-turvy these days that instead of helping your love life to flourish, it is actually killing it. You have every power to create it on a first date and raise your chances of connecting with the man you are meeting and getting him interested in asking you for another date!
Looks aren't everything but love, it would seem, is far from blind. Across cultures and sexes, some features hold greater appeal. And while striking faces may sometimes be drop-dead gorgeous, studies have shown we are generally drawn to Mr or Ms Average, whatever our culture.
Or maybe out for coffee. The two of you are getting along great, talking, laughing, never a lull in the conversation. That little something extra that maybe makes you really want to end the date with a kiss and definitely see them again.