Just to be clear: when you live with a chronic illness or choose to be with someone who has a chronic illness, it is not always as easy as a relationship that does not experience the same challenges. I have Cystic Fibrosis the dictionary definition is much more medical and technical than gives justice to the reality of my everyday life. To give the basics, Cystic Fibrosis is a genetic lung disorder, in which the protein on two of my genes has been mutated, causing many problems that are ultimately life-threatening if not treated.
Health and wellness touch each of us differently. I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis at But I did know that our lives were no longer going to be on the same wavelength.
This story was published on The Mighty by Hannah Mochand it has been given edits before re-posting. It might be a huge part of their identity and it might be a tiny part of their identity, but it is only part. Secondly, it is important to remember that the farther you fall in love, the more their illness may become part of your identity.
How many more she had from there was a complete unknown if she even had that many in the first place. Zack, a year-old writer and college professor in Raleigh, North Carolina, was happy to oblige. Also, while Cara could walk short distances with a cane, she was predominantly confined to a wheelchair.
Finding love in this world can be difficult. Most people end up in a few wrong relationships before they find their true prince charming. When you do find that special someone, though, the beginning always seem to be filled with magic.
But before I could answer, another text came through. I was just starting to expand my horizons and do all the things a normal woman in her 30s does—including dating. But it was fraught with challenges.
Trust issues, communication issues, commitment issues…these are all struggles couples can face. With the right counseling and by doing the work, they can overcome them. These are usually the types of problems depicted in romantic comedies, dramas, or just about any program about love.
And they balance me out, too: their careful and considerate nature has tempered my impulsivity and reckless optimism many, many times. I knew Ray was special from the moment I met them. In many ways, ours is a love story that seems pretty typical.
Dating can be hard enough at the best of times. The question of what to share, what to keep to yourself, and how to broach difficult matters is never easy. But for someone with a chronic illness, things are even harder. As with any relationship, the getting to know you stage for someone with a chronic illness can be one of the most difficult.