Never have I ever come up with a legitimate enough reason to pass on sex. Or at least, that used to be my thinking. Did I say best friend?
Which is, of course, the people you already know. They likely know the restaurants you like and some of your Game of Thrones fan theories — they also probably know all the gory details about you and your ex. There are pros and cons to all of these scenarios.
Picture this: Your BFF has a great partner. They're sweet, funny, attractive, and they make your friend happy. Over time, it's normal to develop a platonic friendship with them as long as they continue to be a good partner to your friend.
Thinking about hooking up with them doesn't make you a bad person, but not until you really, really give it some thought should you even consider turning those thoughts into action. One school of thought says you should close that door forever. Be prepared to let the ex-hookup fantasy fade away in order to maintain the friendship.
They've both told me things that make it clear they shouldn't be together. I've advised them to end their relationship because they're often unhappy. They called it off a while ago and said they'd try to remain friends.
Sometimes it seems like the universe just likes to laugh at your life. That's certainly the case when you find yourself attracted to your ex's friend! Depending on the situation, it might either be a funny coincidence or something that could tear apart a friend group.
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Yes, you may as many people tend to get completely wrapped up in your own feelings and give the middle finger to anyone who tries to tell you otherwise, but if one of your besties decided to start humping your ex, would you be supportive or forgiving? Thirdly, yet without intending to come across as territorial in a caveman-defecating-on-his-patch-of-land sort of way, that person was with you and was part of your life. They were someone who significantly contributed to shaping the person you are today. Anyone familiar with Friends will be fully aware of how often they swapped and shared partners.
Powered by WordPress. How you break the news is completely up to you. Understand your friend is probably going to be upset and it might take its toll on your friendship for a while, but if you two are really good friends, they will look beyond the fact that the woman you care about is their ex, see her as the person who makes you happiest, and be happy for you.